The other situation, however, has not proven to have been quite so profitable, and in all honesty I blame it on a lack of complete, honest communication. In these types of conversations it is important to remain calm and allow the other person to blow up, because that's what people do. For the most part, our society has done a very good job of teaching each other that we let our emotions control us and do whatever they drive us to do. Self restraint is a rare commodity in people these days, and it has become one consummate dilemma for our country in more facets than simply communication. Just look at our weight, our habits, our marriages, our lust, the seven deadly sins truly are still living among us...
Back to my story though, despite having allowed this person to blow up and voice their differencing of opinion, then delicately stating my position and trying to outline our overall goal for the situation, in the two weeks that have passed since this conversation was held I am still noticing a feeling of bitterness and peeve seeping from her. I can honestly state that I tried MY hardest to help the situation reach a better overall standing, but somehow honest communication was not achieved from both sides, and it has resulted in a less than desirable situation. What do you do.
So, America, let me make this easy for you. State your goal, listen first, then keep your emotions in check while you speak your honest thoughts. Honesty is so critical, and most people honestly don't own up to it.